Two Questions to Ask Yourself

“Effective time- and self-managers are asking themselves two questions, moment by moment. Those Two Questions are “Am I having fun right now?” and “Is this what I’ve set out to do”? If I’m doing what I’m here to do, experiencing what is mine to experience, I’ll be motivated and focused and engaged. And everybody around me will benefit from that, too.”

So says Dr. David D. Nowell. You can read the full article here where he discusses the various combinations of responses to the two questions. I put together the following chart based on the article:Two Questions Matrix

Some observations:

Procrastination comes from asking only the first question.

When you answer Yes/No, stop and refocus. You’re enjoying what you’re doing, but you won’t enjoy the price you pay for staying here too long.

Living in the Yes/No quadrant will eventually land you in the No/No quadrant. At some point the pain of avoiding life will become great enough that previously enjoyable activities will lose their fun as you face the consequences of your choices.

A lot of pain is avoided by accepting that the No/Yes quadrant is a part life in a fallen world. There’s just stuff that needs to be done that you may never enjoy. The key here, as Dr. Nowell points out, is focusing on the reward. You may hate doing your taxes, but you can look forward to fulfilling your duty as a citizen, not landing in jail, and celebrating once the taxes are finished for another year.

Pay attention to the Yes/Yes quadrant. This is where long term motivation comes much easier. If you can get paid to do things in your Yes/Yes quadrant, you’ll find a lot of satisfaction in work.

You may be surprised to learn that your Yes/Yes activities are someone else’s No/Yes activities. We’re different, which is good, since the world wouldn’t work so well if we all loved the same activities.

 

 

5 Questions to Ask Everyday

Most families live life at a pace that makes reflection near impossible. Just getting through the day without a major logistical failure counts as success.

But without reflection, we fail to notice drifts in direction. Drifts in direction, if uncorrected, will leave us in places we never intended to go – places where relationships are strained, busyness takes the place of significance, and choices are made out of exhaustion.

I find almost any tool that gets me to pause is helpful. Here’s one (you can read more at http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/5-important-questions-to-ask-yourself-every-day.html):

1. What was the best thing that happened to me today?

2. What could I have done better today?

3. What is the most important thing I must accomplish tomorrow?

4. What new thing can I try tomorrow?

5. Who are the most important people in my life and what am I doing for them?